In Western countries, there are fewer and fewer marriages and more and more divorces: about one in three marriages ends in divorce after five to six years. And yet, everyone continues to dream of finding the ideal partner, the perfect spouse, the hoped-for soul mate. Whether you are heterosexual or homosexual, the aspiration to live as a couple is more than a desire: it is a fundamental need, to which only a minority of hardened single people seem indifferent. Since its existence, astrology has always been used to judge this mysterious relationship between two human beings, thanks to the technique of synastry (comparison of charts).
To be in a couple is to be two. And two is a paradoxical number. It signifies both opposition and union, conflict and association, incompatibility and complementarity, division and balance, duel and duo. The two is double, ambivalent. Dualities and symmetries are found everywhere in nature: day and night, light and dark, shadow and light, white and black, masculine and feminine, life and death, good and evil, left and right, etc. It is undoubtedly the Taoist symbol of the yin and yang which best translates the duality of the two: white and black are radically opposed, of course, but white contains black and black contains white, just as the man has his share of femininity and the woman her share of masculinity.
The arithmosophist Pierre Allendy has well analyzed the specificity of two: this number creates both relative differentiation and antagonistic or attractive reciprocity. Imagine that you are absolutely alone in the world: you could only perceive yourself as identical to yourself. If you are at least two, you will immediately perceive a difference: the other is not like me. This difference creates antagonism: if he is not like me, somewhere he annoys me, he denies my uniqueness, he relativizes it. Because he is necessarily different from me, he is, he has something that I don’t have, that I could never be or have. At a minimum, it is a rival; at worst, an adversary, an enemy. But at the same time, this difference is attractive, a source of fascination and desire: couldn’t the other bring me what I lack?
Being two, living together is therefore very far from simple. Such is life as a couple, eternal duo-duel. Because love and hate form an inseparable pair, we love each other madly (at the beginning of the relationship) and then hate each other without measure (during many separations). If we don’t have the courage or the madness of hatred, or the wisdom to see lovelessness and to draw the consequences, we support or cannot support each other mutually: sad coexistences, peaceful or warlike, couples who are imperceptibly dissociated without daring to leave or set off each on their own, for fear of being alone (of being ONE) or by visceral need to be two, even if it is unlivable.
Deciding to live as a couple is go from one to two: we are not self-sufficient, we need a partner, adversary or complementary… and at the same time, it is to aspire to what two make one: that the couple forms a unit, that it is united, and even that it is unique. Paradox moreover, each of the two members aims to achieve his own personal unity within the couple: hence an unfortunate tendency to want to impose his own conception of unity on the other. If he does not share it (a very frequent case), this obscure need for unity of the couple then leads to their disunity…
Finding harmony and unity within a couple is really not easy. Moreover, for millennia, few were the “love marriages”, that is to say the formations of couples freely consented and desired between two partners. The wedding “arranged”, based on economic or prestige considerations, was the norm. This is still true for a very large part of the inhabitants of our planet.
Before divorce was instituted in our Western societies, marriage was above all a sacrament religious indissoluble. Under the watchful gaze of God, we married for better or for worse, with someone we had rarely chosen. And yet, this desire to be able to choose your partner, to be able to evaluate it before marrying it, has always existed. This is why men and women have always tried to find techniques that are as safe and objective as possible to match each other while limiting the damage as much as possible. Logic. We prefer to live the best than the worst…
Of course, astrology has been put to use in this noble task. The technique simply consists in comparing the charts of the stars of the two future spouses. Was the Sun of the man conjunct with the Moon of the woman? The best omens were drawn from this, since the Sun was thought to be masculine and the Moon feminine. If in addition the Mars of the man was at the trine of the Venus of the woman, it was the promise of a perfect spiritual and sexual agreement — the best! —, since Mars was thought to be the symbol of male sexuality and Venus that of female sexuality.
Conversely, in these endless sexist times, the Sun of the woman on the Moon of the man was seen as a bad omen: the woman risked imposing a male and unconscious will on the part feminine (obviously weak and easily influenced) of her man. And why not the MLF, while we were there? An opposition or a square between the Sun of one and the Moon of the other was just as frowned upon: it was a major sign of misunderstanding. Ditto for the squares or oppositions between the Mars of one and the Venus of the other: such aspects were considered as sure signs of sexual misunderstanding. If in addition the two spouses were born under opposite Signs (Mr. Libra and Mrs. Aries for example), you could expect the worst and pray that the French Revolution would arrive as soon as possible to establish the divorce…
Many astrologers at the end of the millennium continue to use these techniques based on superficial and sexist analogies to assess the degree of agreement or disagreement between the two members of a couple. Why were the Sun and Mars declared “masculine”? Quite simply because the solar function encourages playing the roles of a unique and dominating super-model, and the marsian function gives a taste for fighting and competition. An active and combative superhero: this is the perfect portrait of the macho. Why would the Moon and Venus be “feminine”? Because the lunar function encourages one to be plastic, receptive, passive, and the venusian function is a factor of powerful affectivity, gentleness and tenderness. A submissive and dependent lover: this is the perfect portrait of the woman before the MLF.
These are worn-out sexist clichés, images from Épinal. To convince you of this, let’s take a few concrete examples: Alain Delon was born under an opposition Venus-Moon dominant. This does not prevent him from having a macho reputation and behavior (which proves that machismo is not an astrological fatality, but the fruit of socio-cultural conditioning). Juliette Binoche was born under a conjunction Sun-Mars dominant: yet she is absolutely feminine and has nothing of a virago. Conversely, Thierry Lermitte is considered to be a prototype of the modern man stripped of his macho armor… Sun and Mars nevertheless dominate his birth sky. As for Miou-Miou, born under a dominant Moon-Venus, she is very far from the caricature of the mealy-mouthed and submissive woman…
Let’s summarize before seeing to what extent and to what extent astrology can actually help to better understand how a couple works: the Sun and Mars are no more masculine than the Moon and Venus are feminine. In reality, there are receptive and dreamy lunar men, hyper-aware solar women of their social role, charming and affective venusian men, energetic and combative marsian women.
Modern synastry (or comparison of charts) uses methods and techniques quite different from those just described. Before exposing them, it is not useless to ask ourselves what each of us expects from the other in the couple relationship. It’s the dialectic of the same and the other: am I looking for someone who resembles me as much as possible, that is to say who has roughly the same vision of the world as me, the same interests, the same kind of character, the same kind of psychological reactions? Or am I looking for someone who is as different from me as possible (different social background, different outlook, diametrically opposed character, etc.)?
In the first case, the couple relationship is based on resemblance. We understand each other immediately, because we are made of the same wood. Advantages: a great complicity, a deep communion which can resemble that experienced by identical twins. We don’t get upset (well, not too much, it’s a couple all the same!), we exchange easily. Disadvantages: we have roughly the same qualities and the same faults: each other can only be reinforced in common life. We therefore risk going around in circles together, and having trouble evolving.
In the second case, the couple relationship is based on dissimilarity. We are fascinated by the other, but we find it difficult to understand him, which arouses the intense desire to discover him. Advantages: complementarity. If, for example, I have an introverted nature, my extroverted spouse will help me open up to the world (and vice versa). If I’m a dreamer, my realist alter-ego will help keep my feet on the ground… and take care of all the practical tasks (and vice versa: I’ll help him escape his down-to-earth concerns by dragging it into dreams…). Disadvantages: it takes a lot of objectivity, doing a lot of work on yourself to agree to live with someone whose tastes, rhythms or ideas are the opposite of mine. The risks of misunderstanding and deep misunderstanding are very high, and the fascination that presided over the beginnings of the relationship frequently turns into pure and simple rejection: “We are too different, we can never get along.”
Of course, these two types of relationship are at opposite ends of a broad psychological spectrum. As always, everything is a matter of dosages, proportions. There are thus couples with a lot of similarities and very few differences, others with a lot of similarities but very significant differences, still others with as many similarities as differences, etc. Each dosage corresponds to a different and original experience scenario for the couple.
If love were not blind, each of us would win, before considering forming a couple, doing some soul-searching and asking ourselves what type of couple we are looking for. In general, it is most often impossible before thirty years, age of the end of the first cycle of Saturn: these are superficial or unconscious motivations that push us to choose the chosen one of our heart.
What is a chart comparison for modern astrology? The technique is not very complicated in itself. A chart is made up of ten planetary factors, the aspects that the planets form to each other, and a number of zodiac signs. The astrologer prioritize all of these elements and can thus, at first, evaluate which are the dominant and non-dominant planets, aspects and Signs for each of the two charts.
Secondly, it performs the actual comparison. If the two members of the couple have identical planetary and zodiacal dominants and non-dominants, he knows that it is a relationship of resemblance. Example: Romeo and Juliet both have a conjunction Mars-Uranus dominant in Aries, but a Moon weak in Pisces: they both have a go-getter and determined temperament that can hardly stand lymphatic letting go. Verdict: birds of a feather flock together… As long as harmony reigns, they will form a dynamic and restless couple, whose possible violent conflicts, inherent in the impetuous nature of both, will in no way prevent them from cultivate a deep bond. But if disagreement sets in, the separation risks being brutal and aggressive, etc.
If, on the contrary, the planetary and zodiacal dominants of one are the non-dominants of the other, the astrologer knows that this is a relationship of dissimilarity or complementarity. Example: Tristan is a super-Capricorn with a conjunction Saturn-Pluto dominant and a very undervalued Venus-Mars conjunction, while Iseult is on the contrary a super-Gemini with a conjunction Venus-Mars dominant and Saturn-Pluto very weak. With this kind of chart, Tristan has a phlegmatic, cold and distant character which makes any immediate expression of his affectivity, of his sensoriality difficult, while Iseult is a reactive and spontaneous affective, with passionate and tumultuous outbursts which ignore coldness and distance. They are therefore poles apart. At best, Tristan will help Iseult to moderate his ardor, to take a more critical and thoughtful look at his visceral reactions, while Iseult will help Tristan to come out of his phlegm, to express his emotions more. At worst, it is absolute misunderstanding. At the end of a period (of variable duration) following a love at first sight, the relationship risks becoming difficult, even impossible if neither of the two accepts that the other is fundamentally different from him.
It is only in a second step that the astrologer proceeds to the comparison of charts aspect by aspect: If for example the Saturn of Tristan is at the trigone of the Venus of Iseult, the passage of an affectivity on edge to distant wisdom will be facilitated. On the other hand, if Tristan’s Saturn is squared with Iseult’s Venus, the latter is very likely to perceive Tristan’s coldness as an unbearable factor in the frustration of his desires, while Tristan will perceive Iseult’s affective desires as a tiring disturbance in a personal universe which he would like to keep free from excessive emotional or sensory arousal, etc.
If you want to choose or evaluate your future spouse through astrology, there are two possibilities. Either you already know him more or less, and while being attracted to him, you would like to know more about the way he behaves most often, independently of your first impressions, fatally distorted by the power of seduction he exerts on you. Either you don’t know it at all, and you will ask the astrologer to find you the ideal astral chart of the one you hope for; with each interesting meeting that you will make, you will then verify, by entrusting his native coordinates (precise and reliable date, time and place of birth) to your astrologer — or by calculating his or her chart yourself if you are an astrologer yourself — if he or she corresponds to what you expect.
In all these cases, beware of verdicts or judgments that are too hasty and too categorical. There are improbable couples that last a lifetime, and unions seemingly without predictable storms that are consumed in a few days or a few months. The astrologer will never be able to choose your spouse for you. It can only help you, with a humble but real insight, to know what type of psychological profile the chosen one your heart corresponds to and tell you if it is rather a relationship of similarity or difference. Once in possession of this valuable information, it is up to you to choose… reasonably or unreasonably!
Gérard Depardieu & Carole Bouquet
A little resemblance, a lot of dissimilarity: Gérard Depardieu and Carole Bouquet were both born at the sunset of Uranus: both are strong-willed, determined, independent, ready to assume and impose their individual originality. With a dominant planetary Sun-Jupiter-Uranus on a Capricorn zodiac background, Gérard Depardieu is an ambitious extrovert haunted by an absolute: that of being the first in his field, while Neptune dominating makes him a whimsical and unpredictable being. His weak point: an undervalued Moon-Saturn square, which makes it difficult for him to abandon himself to a peaceful and routine intimacy.
Carole Bouquet was, on the contrary, born under a dominant Moon-Saturn opposition: restless and introverted, she is in search of fullness and inner tranquility away from the cameras. This is probably what explains his coldness, his distant side. Independent (Uranus-Saturn) but possessive (Moon-Taurus), she nevertheless seeks a close love relationship (trine Moon-Venus).
The very weak Moon of Gérard is in opposition to the very strong Moon of Carole: they do not have the same rhythms in daily life. Gérard runs away from routine, Carole likes the security it provides. Carole’s dominant Saturn is conjoined with Gérard’s non-dominant Venus: their affective relationship risks quickly becoming frustrating for both of them… It will take a lot of reciprocal efforts for this couple to last a long time…
Bill Clinton & Monica Lewinsky
Many similarities: it is certainly not a legitimate couple, but it is still a star duo. Journalists often portray curvaceous Monica as a scatterbrained youngster completely unaware of what she’s done. Her natal chart absolutely contradicts this portrait: in fact, she is an ambitious and coldly determined young woman (Leo, Sun-Jupiter-Uranus dominant), lends itself to many spectacular excesses in order to succeed in life (opposed Sun-Jupiter). Funny and casual (Mercury ruling), energetic and realistic (Mars-Aries dominant), she is not the type to be pushed around.
Bill Clinton, he is above all a hot-blooded being, with powerful and limitless sensuality (cluster Venus-Mars-Neptune dominating in Libra) coupled with an ambitious man with long teeth and an overdeveloped will to succeed (Leo, trine Uranus-Jupiter dominant). Charmer; it benefits from a power of seduction (Venus) that is both frank and direct (Mars) and bewitching (Neptune).
Bill and Monica have the same character marked by inflexible ambition (Uranus) and overflowing sensoriality and vitality (dominant Venus-Mars aspects). They both also have a very weak Moon-Taurus: neither of them is good at establishing a relationship of peaceful and purring intimacy… Note that the “Monicagate” burst in during the transit of Uranus (surprising starring) in the square of their respective Moons: their intimate relationship becomes the object of public scandal.
Arthur Rimbaud & Paul Verlaine
Similarities and dissimilarities: the most famous homosexual couple in literature do not have much in common, apart from the moon (dreaming, receptivity, poetry) and Venus (sensuality, desire) dominant in both charts. Arthur Rimbaud, born under a conjunction Sun-Venus dominant in Libra, is a seducer in a disproportionate quest for absolute recognition. Under Opposition Sun-Pluto dominant, it is also a tormented being, in search of an elsewhere, of a deeper dimension of himself (“I is another”, he says in one of his poems). Finally, under the square Sun-Jupiter, it is also an ambitious shared between idealism and opportunism.
Paul Verlaine is above all a plastic and impressionable being (the “poor Lelian”, anagram of his name, as he called himself), seeking peace and harmony (Moon) constantly disturbed by a violent and passionate sensuality (Dominant signs of spring, Venus-Mars-Neptune dissonant moon).
The dominant Sun-Libra of Rimbaud, opposed to Pluto, opposes the very weak Sun-Aries of Verlaine, conjunct Pluto: literally, Rimbaud, the Solar proud and devastating lucidity, overshadowed Verlaine, the Lunar entangled in his affects, his skin-deep emotions. Mars is also very strong with Verlaine and very weak with Rimbaud: which no doubt explains their relationship marked by reports of unconscious aggression… and the pistol shot that Verlaine fired one day at his young lover who was not very present…
Serge Gainsbourg & Jane Birkin
Very big similarities: Gainsbourg and Birkin formed one of the most legendary couples in showbiz. Sun-Jupiter-Uranus in Aries made Gainsbourg a go-getter with a proud, sharp, determined and authoritarian character; Mercury-Venus in Pisces gave it a charm tinged with humor and indifferent levity… a humor that grew dark, caustic, wry and sometimes desperate under Saturn’s ruling square.
If Serge was born under a conjunction Sun-Uranus, Jane has in her natal chart an opposition between these two planets. Just as strong-willed and determined as Serge, she hesitated for a long time on what to do: should she impose her individual originality at all costs (Uranus) or else abdicate it to better submit to the unconditional admiration that her lover inspired in her? mentor-model (Sun)? A clash of two prides, of two wills… That of Gainsbourg was the strongest, and Jane had to leave him to finally conquer her autonomy and her personal independence. Both of them solar and mercurian, they shared sociability, humor and a sense of celebration. Both marked with a square Venus-Saturn, they excelled in “I love you (Venus) neither do I (Saturn)”.
Serge’s Saturn-Sagittarius was conjunct Jane’s Sun: he couldn’t help but belittle her brand image. Finally, they both had a dissonant Moon in Virgo: hence an intimacy impossible to protect, a fusional relationship difficult to bear…
Article published in issue No. 4 of the Astrologie naturelle (December 1998), revised and expanded in No. 5 of Astrologos (June 1981).
▶ Aries and the other Signs: similarities and differences
▶ Taurus and the other Signs: similarities and differences
▶ Gemini and the other Signs: similarities and differences
▶ Cancer and the other Signs: similarities and differences
▶ Leo and the other Signs: similarities and differences
▶ Virgo and the other Signs: similarities and differences
▶ Libra and the other Signs: similarities and differences
▶ Scorpio and the other Signs: similarities and differences
▶ Sagittarius and the other Signs: similarities and differences
▶ Capricorn and the other Signs: similarities and differences
▶ Aquarius and the other Signs: similarities and differences
▶ Pisces and the other Signs: similarities and differences
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